A Test

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The other day I was asked the question that I had anticipated but it still managed to take me by surprise.

"Have you really given up work altogether, or would you be able to act for a friend?"

I don't miss work; I don't miss working. Nevertheless, and for a brief moment, I hesitated, struggling with my answer.

The sense of wanting to help, of being unable to say "no" felt overwhelming. That is until common-sense stepped in and I offered my apologies: "I have indeed retired and am no longer covered by insurance to proffer assistance."


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