A Taste of Independence

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Mister E has been away for 3 days doing boy's stuff. Consequently I have been taking advantage.

On Day One I was out of the house from 9 a.m. until 3.30 p.m. and on Day Two from 9.45 a.m. until 7 p.m. I have been playing music loudly, surfing television channels using "his" remote controller whilst sitting in "his" chair. I have stayed up until after midnight. Horror of horrors, I have even eaten salad for my evening meal.

This morning in line with our usual routine, I got up to make tea to take back to bed.

Force of habit or missing him? I poured out 2 cups!


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