Bad Reaction

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At the risk of sounding neurotic, I surprised myself last week with my reaction to calling into the office where I used to work. I had to drop something off for one of my former colleagues and on driving away was surprised to realise that a wave of stress was drifting over me. It was a feeling that I have not experienced since I retired and in the time it took me to drive no more than 500 yards I had run a gamut of emotions related to feeling under pressure, until I forcibly reminded myself that I had paid a visit only and that wild horses will not drag me screaming back to the workplace.

I am a lady of leisure who lunches and practises yoga and that is the way it is staying!


Comments

Debra Journet said…
I would take that as a validation from on high of your decision to retire!
12 January 2015 at 21:30
Caree Risover said…
Well that's one way of looking at it!
25 January 2015 at 22:19
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